The NY State Council on Divorce Mediation

NYSCDM Peer Group Meeting Monday January 30

2012-01-27T09:41:00.000-08:00

The Peer Group, sponsored by New York State Council on Divorce Mediation will be meeting on Monday, January 30, from 8:30 - 10:00 AM.

For the first meeting of 2012, Lauren Prince and Georgia Davis Graham will continue their presentation on tax issues in connection with mediations.

All divorce mediators and interested professionals are welcome. There is no charge, and there is no requirement that attendees be members of New York State Council, or any other organization.

Space is limited. So please RSVP to MikeStokamer@aol.com if you plan to attend.

260 Madison Avenue, (bet 38th/39th Streets), 20th floor.

The host is Norman Solovay who has an office in the Suite of McLaughlin and Stern. If you are asked in the lobby where you are going, say that you are visiting Norman Solovay on the 20th floor.

Mediating Conflict in Mindful Tension

2012-01-24T13:03:00.000-08:00

[Re-post from NYSCDM Member, Joan A. Moo Young]

Aahhh…the sweet bliss and flow of marriage—when it works! Those who have tasted the fruits of a good marriage know its savoring qualities…it satisfies…it rocks! A marriage that does not work can feel like a whirlwind of tension and conflict that no determined minds can save. For some, a court divorce can be as bad as, or worse than the conflicts and tension in a failed marriage, adding insult to injury.

Conflict is a natural fact of life…and tension, a natural state in all conflict. Tension builds up in life…and marriages…when our needs are not met, when we don’t get what we want, don’t feel understood, when others do not see things our way, don’t like the things we like, don’t hold the values we do. Without release, tensions can escalate into full blown conflicts. This is what compels couples to go their separate ways....

This post is courtesy of Joan A. Moo Young

Read the rest at Joan's blog

https://mediatetension.wordpress.com/2011/12/03/mediating-conflict-in-mindful-tension/

The Benefits of Mediator Mind

2012-01-23T09:19:00.000-08:00

[This is a re-post from NYSCDM Public Awareness Committee Co-Chair, Susan Ingram, Esq.]

It’s fascinating how, as we grow older and wiser, certain ‘truisms’ repeatedly appear in our lives. As I’ve broadened in my professional life from being a lawyer to working as a life coach and mediator, I’ve found this particularly to be the case. I now see clearly how there are certain underlying principles that govern both my professional and personal life. I like to refer to this as Mediator Mind.

So what exactly is Mediator Mind? It’s comprised of a ‘mindful’ approach that each of us can bring to our lives and then see the dramatic difference it makes in all of our relationships. Here are some guidelines for applying this approach:

Read the rest at her site:

http://www.susan-ingram.com/2010/01/the-benefits-of-mediator-mind/

Susan Ingram can also be found on Facebook and LinkedIn

Same Sex Marriage, What It Really Means

2012-01-20T12:21:00.000-08:00

The Family Divorce Mediation Council presented the program, “Same Sex Marriage-What It Really Means” as part of their continuing education series, on January 12. The program was held at the NYC Bar Association and was presented by Teresa Calabrese, J.D., Katie Cole, Esq., Mark Josephson, Esq., CPA, CFP, and Joy Rosenthal, Esq.The presenters reviewed the recently enacted New York Marriage Equality Act and the law’s impact on same sex couples, with particular focus on tax and financial consequences and parenting issues that arise.

The Federal law does not recognize same sex marriages and as a result same sex couples who are legally married in New York are not entitled to many federal entitlements that opposite sex couples may be eligible for. On January 20th, Mayor Bloomberg made the trip to Washington, D.C. to advocate for federal adoption of same sex marriages.

The New York State Mediation Council will be showcasing their organization along with the FDMC during the weekend of March 31 at the Starting Over Smart Divorce Expo in New York City. Come learn how divorce mediation can be a better option for your family.

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This post/event recap was submitted by Helene Bernstein,Esq. Co-Chair of the Public Awareness Committee for the New York State Mediation Council. Follow her at @bernsteinhelene

Good News about Professional Liability Insurance for NYSCDM Members

2009-03-12T17:44:00.000-07:00

The New York State Council on Divorce Mediation has now been approved by Complete Equity Markets' underwriters for our members to be eligible for their mediator liability insurance.

The web site for mediator applications is

http://cemins.com/mediators.html

New Exciting Program on Mentoring for the general membership

2009-03-01T09:06:00.000-08:00

For more information click here.

NYSCDM Listserv

2008-11-23T05:05:00.000-08:00

NYSCDM has a listserv called NYSMEDIATE (a Yahoo group). We are trying to make sure that all our members are included on it. If you are an active NYSCDM member but are not on the listserv, then please notify
Al Frankel and he will enroll you ASAP: al@alfrankelcsw.com. Stay tuned, more information to come.