[Re-post from NYSCDM Member, Joan A. Moo Young]
Aahhh…the sweet bliss and flow of marriage—when it works! Those who have tasted the fruits of a good marriage know its savoring qualities…it satisfies…it rocks! A marriage that does not work can feel like a whirlwind of tension and conflict that no determined minds can save. For some, a court divorce can be as bad as, or worse than the conflicts and tension in a failed marriage, adding insult to injury.
Conflict is a natural fact of life…and tension, a natural state in all conflict. Tension builds up in life…and marriages…when our needs are not met, when we don’t get what we want, don’t feel understood, when others do not see things our way, don’t like the things we like, don’t hold the values we do. Without release, tensions can escalate into full blown conflicts. This is what compels couples to go their separate ways....
This post is courtesy of Joan A. Moo Young
Read the rest at Joan's blog
https://mediatetension.wordpress.com/2011/12/03/mediating-conflict-in-mindful-tension/
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